LOVE . . . People are obsessed with it. We think about it, write about it, and read about it. We talk about it, we look for it, and yes, we even sing about it: Love makes the world go ‘round. Love is a many-splendored thing. All you need is love. Interestingly, our world seems to have different kinds of love. There’s an intimate love shared between life partners; a warm love that’s feely given to family members; a genuine love that’s offered to close friends; and a nurturing, heartfelt love that a mother extends to her newborn child. But what kind of love does God have?

In the New Testament, we are taught that God is love. But what does that mean? How is Divine love described? Perhaps it will help to reflect on the following words: unconditional, incomprehensible, enlightening, transforming, uplifting, unfathomable, debilitating, all-consuming, and overwhelming. Some of those descriptive words for God’s love might have been expected, while others, not at all. So let’s look closer at Divine love. People with firsthand experience of God’s unfiltered love – those who have felt its full force and impact – share similar stories. For example, a man named Saul was walking on the road to Damascus. Without warning, he was struck by God’s overwhelming love. Saul, a man who had persecuted those who worshiped God, was instantly, completely, and permanently transformed. In a very real sense, he was debilitated. For a long while, he was unable to function in the world. Saul needed time to recover from an epiphany that affected him physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Saul became Paul, an enlightened apostle; an instrument of God’s will; a man who was born again. That is, he was changed beyond recognition. He was no longer the man he used to be. Though Paul later endured extreme hardship, his faith never wavered. His uplifting ministry was God-directed and passion-driven. For Paul, Divine love was all-consuming.

Closer to home, meet Howard Storm, a former art professor at Northern Kentucky University and a self-proclaimed atheist. Storm openly ridiculed anyone who embraced religion or believed in God. Then, a near-death experience forever changed his life. While in the hospital with a life-threatening illness, Storm was guided to what he later described as a “timeless realm of complete darkness.” From there, a horrific journey unfolded. Storm endured intense suffering, torment, guilt, despair, and shame. Yet, his experience didn’t end there. He ultimately received Divine salvation and forgiveness. Storm said he felt an unfathomable love that was offered unconditionally. He explained that the full force of God’s love is beyond human comprehension. Upon feeling the unrestrained impact of Divine love, Storm was overwhelmed. He couldn’t bear to face this world again. Storm was debilitated to the point that his emotional and spiritual recovery took many months longer than the time needed for his body to heal. He was instantly, completely, and permanently transformed. Storm never returned to his job as a college art teacher. Instead, he entered seminary and went on to serve as a pastor for several different churches. Today, Storm continues to be an instrument of God’s will.

Scripture contains many references to love, both Divine and human. Psalm 100 describes God’s love in one short proclamation: “The Lord is good and His love endures forever.” And in First Corinthians, Paul describes human love in its highest form: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast. It is not proud or rude. Love is not self-seeking or easily angered, and it keeps no records of wrongs. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love rejoices with the truth. Love never fails.” For human beings, these are lofty standards, indeed. And Paul’s reminder, that love keeps no record of wrongs, is a perfect introduction to forgiveness.

FORGIVENESS . . . Are you aware that forgiveness is part of love? In truth, love and forgiveness are inseparable. Think about it. Can you truly love someone, if you’re unable to forgive them? Can you truly love yourself without self-forgiveness? But to answer these questions and to grasp why we need forgiveness, let’s to go back to the very beginning – to the original sin. Both Adam and Eve had chosen to eat the forbidden fruit. Fearful and desperate, Eve tried to blame the serpent, while Adam tried to blame Eve. But these tactics were futile, and their defiance led to catastrophic consequences. No longer in Paradise, Adam and Eve felt unloved and believed that God would not forgive them. Was this a literal or a metaphorical event? That’s for you to decide. Either way, the pain is very real. Something happened; and from that moment forward, humankind has been tormented by guilt and shame. It’s both a collective and individual burden still carried today. And even when guilt and shame aren’t forefront in our thoughts, they remain active in our unconscious minds. So every now and then, a faint, inner voice tries to convince us that we are unworthy of God’s love and undeserving of God’s forgiveness. Occasionally, a soft voice whispers that we deserve to be punished, we deserve to suffer, and that God will never forgive us.

Is Satan the force behind this inner voice which tries to deceive us? Again, that’s for you to decide. Typically, psychotherapists point to the human ego as the menacing culprit lurking in the shadows of the mind. Still, the next time you hear a devilish, inner voice of guilt and shame, stop for a moment. Pause and remember: If God is love, then God is forgiveness. And if God’s love is unconditional, then God’s forgiveness is unconditional as well. So in truth, there is nothing we can think or say or do that is beyond God’s forgiveness. In reality, Divine love has no boundaries. People routinely underestimate God. Why? The reason is simple. We wrongly project human weaknesses and limitations onto God. Though created in a Divine image, human beings are just that – human. We make mistakes, we’re not infallible. In short, we are not God. Nor is God human. Our Creator doesn’t have human frailties. That’s why there are no limits to Divine love. Our unwillingness to forgive has no effect on God.

Jesus taught lessons of love and forgiveness. His ministry was inclusive, reaching out to those who were largely ignored or shunned. He touched the hearts and lives of criminals and prostitutes, the sick and the poor. He walked among the outcasts of society. Ultimately, Jesus forgave Judas, who betrayed him; Peter who denied him; Pontius Pilot who condemned him; and the Roman soldiers who crucified him. Jesus was forgiveness. He also taught that God wishes us to live joyously. Jesus said to his disciples, “Obey my commands. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete. My command is: Love each other as I have loved you.” There are some things in this world that we know for sure. We know we cannot live joyously while clinging to guilt and shame. We cannot live joyously in a state of self-loathing. And we cannot live joyously while thinking we’re unworthy of God’s forgiveness. Make no mistake, extending love is spiritual work. Offering forgiveness is spiritual work. And spiritual work sets the stage for lasting joy and happiness.

Forgiveness is a process that has several steps. The first one is to identify the people who have hurt you in some way: physically, emotionally, spiritually, or financially. Make a list of their names. Perhaps God will be on your list, and that’s okay. Yet, in keeping with the truth that love holds no grievances, the following step is to offer genuine forgiveness to each name listed. Next, you must identify the people that you have hurt – those who have felt pain because of something you said or did. This is accomplished by completing a thorough life review and making a list of their names. Then, take ownership of your behavior. Don’t project blame onto someone else. Admit that people have been hurt because of your mistakes and your choices. Ask God to forgive you for those harmful mistakes and choices. And you can pray for God’s help and guidance in taking the next step: to ask each person you’ve hurt to forgive you, and then to make amends. You might wonder, “How do I ask for forgiveness? How can I make amends? I’ve lost touch with many of these people, and some of them are no longer alive.” One effective solution is to write a series of letters. You can write letters to both the living and the dead. You can even write a letter to God. And if you’re unable to write, you can dictate the letters to someone you trust. Understand that you can mail the letters, or destroy them. Either is okay, because regrets expressed for the greater good are never left unheard.

Finally, you’ve reached the last step in the forgiveness process. Knowing that you are already forgiven by God, you must grant the empowering favor of self-forgiveness. You must choose to love yourself, to let go of all guilt, and to accept your worthiness of God’s love. Though it seems like a daunting task, ponder this question: If God really believes you’re unworthy of His love, then why did He send you a Savior? One last point: it’s not an accident that this forgiveness process is nearly identical to the ones found in twelve-step recovery programs. And that brings us to healing.

HEALING . . . Why do people turn to drugs and alcohol? For the most part, it’s to escape their pain. Why are they in pain? Often, it’s because – unconsciously – they feel broken and incomplete. Addicts feel unworthy and unloved. In essence, they are unhealed. Eventually, they come to despise both their addictions and themselves. Why are twelve-step programs such a beacon of hope for people struggling with addictive behaviors? Why have these programs proven to be so successful? First, addicts must admit that healing requires help from a Higher Power. In addition, they attend meetings where everyone receives unconditional love and forgiveness; where everyone is given nonjudgmental acceptance and support. If there’s a relapse, they are still treated with dignity. They are still loved and supported. Addicts are also taught that, in order to stay clean and sober, they must seek forgiveness and make amends. In due time, they learn to love themselves. They practice self-forgiveness, and at last, their self-image is healthy and balanced. Forgiveness leads to healing. No longer a burden on anyone, they are changed beyond recognition. Having been transformed into productive members of society, their pride is justified.

Pain is interwoven among all three levels of human life: the body, the mind, and the spirit. So it’s natural that healing occurs on each of these levels as well. Physicians have long recognized that problems within the mind can manifest in physical ailments, like migraines and chronic pain. Thankfully, prescribed medicines can block physical pain. Without question, pain medication provides necessary, welcomed relief. And of course, psychotropic drugs are used to treat mental illnesses. But are medicines treating problems at their source, or are they primarily managing symptoms? What doctors may fail to realize is that spiritual problems can be the source of both physical and mental illness. That’s why holistic treatments – ones that address the needs of body, mind, and spirit – prove effective in so many cases. Going a step further, renowned psychiatrist Dr. Carl Jung suggested, “After age 35, all problems are spiritual problems.” Jung was a pioneer in recognizing that spiritual work promotes healing on all levels. His breakthrough discoveries formed the foundation for today’s twelve-step programs. And Dr. David Hawkins is counted among today’s highly regarded psychiatrists who teach that spiritual work is a critical component of healing. In other words, there are times that, if we want to be healed, we must be willing to do spiritual work. We must be willing to love and to forgive. And we must be willing to work on the spiritual pain which originates from our unconscious belief that we have disobeyed God, and that He will not forgive us.

Could this mean that sick people are being punished by God? In response to that question, consider this: How does a god who intentionally makes people sick reconcile with a God who is love?  How does a god who causes illness reconcile with a benevolent Creator who wants each of His children to live joyously? And there are more questions to contemplate. What does it mean to be healed? Is healing simply a state of mind? Could it be that emotional healing is nothing more than an underlying sense of wholeness – a sense of not being broken, a feeling of not being incomplete? Is it possible that spiritual healing is experienced as a profound and lasting inner peace? And there seems to be a curious paradox as well: Healing takes time, but time itself cannot heal. Along with time, healing requires the added dimension of forgiveness. Just as love and forgiveness are inseparable, so too, are forgiveness and healing. Forgiveness is healing. In his ministry, Jesus healed many broken bodies, broken minds, and broken spirits. Would it be a surprise to learn that Jesus extended unconditional love and forgiveness at the very moment in which he healed someone?

In addition to practicing love and forgiveness, spiritual work includes prayer, worship, Bible study, meditation, counseling, support groups, and reflective spiritual reading. And energy work, like healing touch, is also in the mix of options. Curiosity led a young woman named Mary to learn more about healing touch. She enrolled in a series of classes sponsored by Children’s Hospital in Cincinnati. After finishing the training, Mary and her classmates were getting ready to practice their healing techniques on a group of volunteers. Suddenly, Mary sensed something extraordinary; something that was indescribable, yet palpable. Thinking there might be a problem with the room’s ventilation system, Mary asked the instructor, “What is that I’m feeling?” Making no effort to stop what she was doing or to even make eye contact, the instructor casually replied, “The angels are gathering.”

Along with heavenly angels, God blesses us with another healing gift – a gift most high: grace. A gift in the truest sense, grace doesn’t have to be earned. It flows from God’s unconditional love. Divine grace is freely given, without the need to be deserved. In Christian religions, healing on the spiritual level ultimately requires two additional gifts: redemption – a deliverance from sin; and salvation – the promise of eternal life in Heaven. And for people who embrace Christianity, redemption and salvation are found through Jesus Christ. Christians believe it was an act of grace for Christ to willingly accept the pain, suffering, and humiliation of crucifixion. His sacrifice was for the redemption and salvation of others. And his Resurrection was yet another gift – a Divine assurance that life is eternal; an affirmation that God is a living God whose love is everlasting.

Grace touches our lives in many ways. Once, there was a young servant whose primary task was to carry water for his master. Early each morning, the young boy would make a long journey to the water’s source. A stout, wooden rod rested across his shoulders; and two large, clay jars were attached to the rod – one vessel hanging from each end. Upon reaching the well, the boy would fill both jars. This was enough water to last his master an entire day. By chance, one jar was perfect, while the other was not. The flawed vessel was cracked. It leaked water to the extent that, by the time the boy returned to his master’s home, the jar was only half-filled. One day, as the boy neared the end of his journey, the imperfect jar was despondent. It felt shame and guilt. Sensing this, the young servant said, “Knowing your flaw, I planted seeds along your side of the pathway. Look behind you and behold the beautiful flowers growing. They prosper because of your spilled water. And each day, my master’s table is graced by the gift of these flowers. At last, the truth has been revealed: your imperfection is a blessing.”

In the human condition, every vessel is imperfect. There is no one who is unflawed. We are destined to make mistakes, and to suffer from them. This reminds us how challenged we are in our mission to love and to forgive – in our mission to be healed. In terms of emotional and spiritual healing, most of us are works in progress. Yet, if you allow Him, God will teach you how to love. And by giving love, you shall receive love. If you welcome Him, God will teach you how to forgive. And by offering forgiveness, you shall receive forgiveness. And if you ask Him, God will teach you how to heal. And by healing others, you shall be healed as well.

A Spiritual Reflection by Chaplain John Love

RELATIONSHIPS . . . Relationships: we’re born into them, we seek new ones, and we learn so much from them. Complex by nature, relationships may include a mix of love and fear; a blend of selflessness and exploitation. As a result, relationships teach us how to be, and how not to be. It’s true that relationships often come and go. Sometimes they end in anger, pain, and sadness. Then, we call them failed relationships. Yet, if we’ve grown from the experience, are they really failures?

Relationships that stretch over a long period of time usually provide our best opportunities for personal growth. Long-term interactions with family, friends, and life partners give us a chance to build character. There’s a simple explanation for why we grow through relationships: they require hard work. Through them, we learn how to love and how to forgive. In healthy relationships, we learn how to put the needs of others ahead of our own. In balanced relationships, we learn kindness, compassion, and patience. In loving relationships, we learn how to hope, to trust, and to persevere. And each time a close relationship comes to an end, we grieve.

GRIEF . . . Today’s psychologists widely agree that change – along with our perception of change – is the primary source of grief. Typically, we view change as a threat or a loss. Whether it’s about a job, our health, our finances, a relationship, or that new stain on our favorite pair of jeans, each change that we face triggers a grieving process – a period of time when we assess the damage and sort through our feelings. And depending on someone’s perceptions and choices, a single grieving process may last anywhere from a moment to a lifetime. In reality, the mind can only process tiny bits of change at a time. When too much change comes too quickly, we feel overwhelmed. We’re literally stunned and unable to think clearly.

And of course, it is death that sparks our greatest sense of loss. Death is the transition from this world to the next, while grief is the pain felt by those left behind. When a loved one dies, we miss their presence. We grieve, and the pain is very real. Death unleashes an emotional mix of anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. Sometimes, we’re overcome by sorrow. We realize that our lives will never again be the same. During our darkest periods, we try to cope one day at a time – or perhaps just one hour at a time, or even minute by minute. Although each journey is different, there are common threads that weave through the grieving process. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was among the first to recognize that grief includes periods of denial, anger, and sadness. And Kubler-Ross discovered that, as healing begins to unfold, we may finally arrive at a place of acceptance – a place where we choose to embrace a different life; a life that has a new normal. Understand that every journey, regardless of its length, begins with a first step. Know there’s never a need to deny your feelings. There’s never a reason to be embarrassed by your pain. And there’s no need to feel guilty when a moment of happiness breaks through.

People make judgments about death. It’s part of being human. So for those who are old and suffering, death is merciful. When someone is young, death is unfair. And if it’s caused by a tragic accident or a criminal act, death is wrongful. Yet, such judgments inevitably prolong grief’s pain. They build barriers which prevent healing. As perceptions of injustice are reinforced, those who grieve run the risk of adopting a new, but negative, identity: the innocent victim. This disempowering self-image creates even more obstacles to healing.

When a life partner dies, people are particularly vulnerable to the hazards of obstructive judgments and perceptions. There can be added worries about safety, financial security, or personal well-being. And yes, identity issues persist as well. A woman may think, “I was a wife for such a long time, now I’m a widow. How does this change my life?” Or a man might say, “When my wife was alive, I took good care of her. Now, there’s no one who needs me.” Ultimately, grief’s pain cries out for healing – it cries out for a miracle.

THE MIRACLE OF HEALING . . . Is it true that before emotional or spiritual healing occurs, there must first be a miracle? And if the answer is yes, then why don’t we see more evidence of miracles? Perhaps the truth is hidden in plain sight. In other words, maybe it’s because miracles are misunderstood. Most people believe miracles happen rarely, if ever. It’s also thought that miracles typically occur on a grand scale – something so spectacular that Divine intervention is the only possible explanation. And indeed, miracles like these do happen. But could there be other kinds of miracles too? Is it possible that miracles are happening all around us, but without any fanfare? Could God’s healing work be so subtle as to go unnoticed?

Consider this scenario. You’ve just learned that someone has died, and you happen to know a family member, Laura, who is sure to be suffering from this loss. Though you didn’t attend the funeral, you run into Laura at the grocery store about two weeks later. Out of kindness, you offer empathy and condolences. A minute or two later, you and Laura hug and say goodbye. Was this a chance encounter? Either way, it’s one that is soon forgotten. Yet, perhaps something else is happening – something you’re unaware of. Over the next few weeks, other people run into Laura as well. And they, too, extend kindness. As a result, Laura is uplifted. Her pain is fading a bit, and she’s beginning to feel better. She’s starting to heal. And your kindness – your random encounter – has played an important role: for kindness brings comfort; comfort sparks love; love nurtures forgiveness; and forgiveness promotes healing. Is this not a miracle? And is it not likely that similar miracles are happening each day all over the world?

Make no mistake, emotional and spiritual healing requires work; work like prayer, meditation, counseling, support groups, and so on. Still, genuine healing never occurs without forgiveness. Forgiveness is healing and it’s a process that has several steps. Forgiveness might mean asking others to forgive you, including your loved one who has died. It could mean asking God to forgive you, or it could mean offering forgiveness to God – if you believe that He has caused your pain. Forgiveness might mean letting go of grievances and forgiving others, including the person who is no longer in your life. And always, you must forgive yourself. Each step promotes healing. Each one lessens your pain and sadness. Most importantly, each step requires a decision – an empowering choice that only you can make.

Quite often, forgiveness needs a catalyst – a spark to get things started. So in this sense, every act of kindness serves as a gentle reminder that it’s okay to forgive. Moreover, each time someone chooses to forgive, they affirm their earlier choice to seek healing. It’s another reminder of the paradox that healing takes time, but time itself does not heal. Healing needs both time and forgiveness. After a loved one dies, you’ll benefit from other work as well. For example, pause to redefine who you are. Stop to re-examine life’s purpose and meaning. Identify the things in your life that remain important to you. And consider reassigning greater value to things in life that are less transient; things that can’t be taken from you, like volunteer work.

After a long string of gray, dismal days, it’s easy to forget that – hidden behind the sky’s thick clouds – the Sun is shining brightly. In truth, the Sun is always shining, even when dense clouds block its light. Grief is like a formidable barrier of dark clouds – clouds that stand between you and God’s love. Day after day, you feel pain and sadness. Obscured by grief’s clouds, God seems so distant – so far away. Yet, forgiveness will lift your clouds of despair. One by one, they will drift away. Aided by time, forgiveness will remove all of the barriers between you and God’s love. Understand that Divine Light, like the Sun, is always shining. Know that God will not abandon you. He has never left you, and never will.

In closing, consider reflecting on the Psalms during times when you need added support . . .   

When you seek rest, say these words: “I will lie down and sleep in peace; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” (Psalm 4)

When you feel sad, repeat these words: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34)

When you are frustrated, ask these words: “How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart?” (Psalm 13)

When you seek to quiet your overactive mind, reflect on these words: “Be still and know that I am God.” (Psalm 46)

When you seek forgiveness, repeat these words: “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” (Psalm 51)

When you feel distant from God, recite these words: “If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me; your right hand will hold me fast.” (Psalm 139)

When you seek courage, say these words: “God is my refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46)

When you seek safety, repeat these words: “The Lord will keep me from all harm; he will watch over my life. The Lord will watch over my coming and going, both now and forevermore.” (Psalm 121)

When you seek comfort, recite these words: “The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures; he leads me beside quiet waters; he restores my soul.” (Psalm 23)

And when you feel thankful, proclaim these words: “Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. Worship the Lord with gladness; come before him with joyful songs.” (Psalm 100)

A Spiritual Reflection by Chaplain John Love

As your health declines, you may feel physical, emotional, or spiritual pain. When you’re unable to do the things you once could do, you might begin to think: I don’t want to be a burden on anyone. Or you might ask, “Why am I still alive? What does God have planned for me?” These are tough questions, and everyone’s life is different; each person’s journey is unique. Yet, common threads also weave through the tapestry of life. And among them, is this fact: everyone born of this world must, by death, leave it.

As you start to feel more vulnerable and dependent, it’s normal to experience anxiety. It’s normal to fear an uncertain future. Everybody wants to have a sense of control in life. But at some point, we learn that our control is limited. And as our health weakens, we face the prospect of losing even more control. So again, you might ask, “What is God’s plan for me? How could my life have meaning if I can’t get out of bed?”

While God’s plan isn’t always clear, there’s one thing you can absolutely know for sure. When you invite God’s love into your heart, you become a light in the world. And when you are a light in the world, your light shines on others. Think of it like this. If a pebble is dropped into a pond of still water, it creates a series of ripples that extend outward. Those ripples travel farther and farther. In time, they stretch to the horizon and beyond.

In a similar fashion, the light in your heart extends outward. It touches each person who comes near you. Your light may shine on a family member or a friend. It may touch a doctor, a nurse, a new acquaintance, or a complete stranger. It’s up to God to make those connections. And because your light stems from Divine love, it illuminates, uplifts, inspires, encourages, and affirms all who are touched by it. And yes, the people touched by your light, go on to touch others; and those people touch still others; and so on, like ripples in a pond. It’s the miracle of love.

Now, the truth is revealed. You can do God’s work and help many people, without ever getting out of bed. And your light in this world leaves an ongoing legacy of love and joy.

In closing, reflect on this new possibility for life’s meaning: With God’s love in your heart, you are a light in the world – a light that shines on everyone you meet. Your light brings peace to all who are touched by it. And your legacy is one of love and joy.           

A Spiritual Reflection by Chaplain John Love       

The year was 1939 and a teenager named David Hawkins had an after-school job delivering newspapers in rural Wisconsin. He used a bicycle to travel the rigorous, seventeen-mile roundtrip. One day on his route, something happened that forever changed David’s life. Decades later, he used these words to describe his experience.

“On a dark winter’s night, I was caught in a twenty-below-zero blizzard. My bicycle fell over on the ice and the fierce wind ripped the newspapers out of the handlebar basket, blowing them across a snowy field. There were tears of frustration and exhaustion, and my clothes were frozen stiff. To get out of the wind, I broke through the icy crest of a high snow bank, dug out a space, and crawled into it. Soon, the shivering stopped and there was a delicious warmth; and then a state of peace beyond all description. This was accompanied by a glowing light and the presence of infinite love which had no beginning and no end. My body and surroundings faded as my awareness was fused with this all-present, illuminated state. My mind grew silent; all thought stopped. An infinite, divine presence was all that was or ever could be, beyond all time or description.”

“After this sense of timelessness, I suddenly felt someone shaking my knee. Then my father’s anxious face appeared. There was great reluctance to return to my physical body and all which that entailed; but because of my father’s anguish, divine spirit nurtured and reactivated my body. There was compassion for my father’s fear of my death; although at the same time, for me, the concept of death seemed absurd.”

David Hawkins went on to graduate from medical school. He became a respected psychiatrist. In fact, his private practice grew to be the largest in New York City. He managed fifty staff members and treated over two thousand patients a year. Hawkins provided care for people with debilitating mental illnesses. But after years of witnessing profound human suffering, he felt exhausted, depleted and overwhelmed. It was as though Hawkins had begun to experience the pain of his patients. Starting to doubt the existence of a loving God, he was engaged in a serious crisis of health and faith.

Hawkins took an extended leave of absence from his medical practice. And during this time, he was gravely ill. Though never fearing death, he nonetheless shouted, “If there is a God, I ask Him to help me now! I surrender to whatever Higher Power there might be.” From that moment, an enlightened spiritual journey began. Like many philosophers and theologians before him, Hawkins asked: Why would a God of love allow such intense human suffering to occur? After a period of reflection, Hawkins mused: Is it possible that one of the primary reasons we are in this world is to achieve spiritual growth? And if this is so, what is it in life that affords us the greatest opportunities for spiritual growth?

Of course, suffering is rarely welcomed at the time it occurs. Yet, it is during difficult, stressful, and even tragic times that we may have best the chance to draw closer to God. So perhaps we should re-evaluate our perceptions and judgments about the challenging times in our lives. Maybe they shouldn’t be viewed so harshly. That’s not to say you should deny your feelings, or that your pain isn’t real. But a shift in perception might be warranted. In the end, Dr. Hawkins persevered. Both his health and his faith in a loving God were restored.

Today, David Hawkins is an acclaimed author and has travelled the world hosting lectures and workshops on spiritual growth. He believes that a mature faith eventually leads to a complete surrender to God’s will. It’s the kind of surrender that comes from strength, not weakness. Placing our trust in God will nurture a sustained sense of safety, well-being, and peace. And it’s a liberating journey. Why? Because when we surrender to a Higher Power, there’s no longer a desire to control and micro-manage our lives. There’s no longer a reason to worry about the future and its uncertainty. There’s no longer a need to try to save the world. All of these daunting tasks are left to God. And the result is a confident, underlying feeling that all is well.

Still, there are empowering choices we can make. Chief among them is the willingness to adjust our perception of the human experience. A Course in Miracles suggests that a miracle is sometimes nothing more than a ‘shift’ in perception. The story of the Mongolian stallion is a classic example of shifting perceptions. A struggling family lives near a remote border of Mongolia. One day, a stallion magically appears. It helps them with many of their farm chores. The horse is good. Then, while riding the stallion, the oldest son is thrown and breaks his leg. The horse is bad. Soon after, a government official arrives to claim the family’s oldest son, so that he may fight in a bloody war. However, with his leg broken, the oldest son is honorably excused from combat. The horse is good. A few weeks later, the stallion unexpectedly disappears. Now the family is left with nothing. The horse is bad. But after several more weeks, the stallion returns, this time accompanied by five mares. The horse is good.

Perception shapes everything that happens in life. So it’s important to understand that perception is a matter of choice. Indeed, it’s a blessing to be able to choose how personal experiences and the world at large are viewed. As a result, we can choose to see peace, rather than conflict; love, rather than fear; abundance, rather than lack; and we can to see a divine plan, instead of random chaos. Abraham Lincoln is credited with saying: “Most of us are just as happy as we make up our minds to be.”

Like Sam, an eighty-year-old man who has lived alone since his wife, Doris, died two years ago. Though he still misses Doris, Sam is comfortable. He enjoys living independently, in a spacious, familiar place. But Sam’s health is declining. He struggles with bathing and preparing meals. One fateful day, Sam falls. And though his injuries aren’t serious, Sam’s children urge him to move into an assisted living community, where he can have help whenever it’s needed. Sam agrees to the move.

A few weeks later, his son, Thomas, drives Sam to his new home. In a voice tinged with anxiety, Thomas explains, “Dad, you’re going to notice some changes. The room is small, and you’ll be sharing it with a roommate.” Sam replies, “I like my new room and my roommate.” Looking puzzled, Thomas exclaims, “But Dad, you haven’t seen your room or your roommate yet!” Sam answers, “That has nothing to do with it. I can decide to be happy in advance. Happiness doesn’t depend on my room or the person I share it with; it depends on how I choose to see them. In my mind, I’ve already decided I like them.”

Spiritual teachers have long suggested that happiness has little to do with what happens to us. Yes, we can find temporary excitement in what we do; we can find fleeting pleasure in things we own; and we can find welcomed comfort and support from close relationships. Yet, none of these leads to lasting happiness. Joy does not originate from an external source; it comes from within our heart. Happiness is an empowering choice that each of us, like Sam, can make.

In a similar way, we can choose to be kind and compassionate to the people we meet as each day unfolds. We can choose to forgive others and ourselves. We can cling to anger, fear, jealousy, and guilt; or we can release them. And in terms of our identity, we can decide to be a victim or a victor. In the journey ahead, will you choose to accept the future, and dismiss its uncertainty? Will you choose to accept change, and let go of its emotional pain? Can you surrender all judgments to God? Do you view your Creator as a source of courage, strength, wisdom, and guidance? And finally, can you trust God, and ask that His will be done on Earth, as it is in Heaven?

A Guided Reflection by Chaplain John Love     

Scientists claim that our universe is made entirely of matter, energy, and space. But matter and energy are – at their genesis – identical, so the scientific community is actually saying the universe contains just two things: energy and space. Curiously, energy is the source of both the matter and the “antimatter” found in space. And according to acclaimed physicist Steven Hawking, matter and antimatter coexist in the exact same amounts. So from a purely mathematical perspective, the net sum of our universe is “zero.”

That’s one reason why Hawking dismisses the existence of God. If the universe ultimately contains nothing – that is, its mathematical identity equals zero – then a Creator isn’t needed; for in truth, there’s nothing to create. Still, there are natural laws and structure that apply to the universe and to our lives. The universe, from our viewpoint, has at least three dimensions: height, length, and width. Some consider time to be a fourth dimension. However, the theoretical physicists who endorse what is called “String Theory” believe our universe has additional dimensions – though the exact number is still under debate. In other words, there are parts of our world that we can neither sense nor experience.

By an overwhelming margin, scientists believe the “Big Bang” triggered the creation of our universe and the beginning of time. Time is not only directional, it’s variable as well. Influenced by forces such as gravity, time can slow down or, in extreme cases, stop altogether. Yet the human experience is immersed in time. Our lives appear to unfold in a chronological order that features a past, a present, and a future. Applying the laws of physics, Hawking concludes there was no “time” prior to the Big Bang, and this belief serves as his second reason to deny God’s existence: there was never a time in which a Creator could exist before the birth of the universe. Though possessing a brilliant mind, is it possible Hawking has overlooked something? Are there realities in the universe that, to this point, have eluded scientific detection? Is it really “nothing” to listen to the music of Beethoven or to look into the eyes of a child? Is there a mathematical formula which captures love?

Physics includes the study of the very small, quantum mechanics, and the very large, cosmology. At the subatomic level, matter is thought to be comprised of tiny vibrating “strands” of energy. And there is shocking evidence indicating these tiny energy strands are “shared” among different dimensions within our universe. Clearly, there are things going on right around us that are completely undetected by our limited senses. It remains uncertain if the laws governing the very small are exactly the same as the ones that govern the very large. Yet, science has conclusively proven that all objects, regardless of their size or density, are mostly just empty space. As a result, there is at least one thing that is known for sure: much of what we see is an illusion.

In humankind’s quest to discover the secrets of our universe, new theories are presented all the time. Radical ideas occasionally gain mainstream acceptance, only to fade away like the night sky as dawn approaches. Even the theories of revered physicist Albert Einstein have not escaped intense scrutiny. His belief that our universe is infinite in size is undergoing a present-day challenge. Prominent theorists currently speculate that our universe is actually finite; that it has a defined shape and a limited size. Moreover, it’s now suggested that our universe might be just one of an infinite number of “parallel” universes. If this is so, are Big Bangs ordinary, ongoing events? For now, scientists think it’s impossible for energy, including a human body, to travel from one universe to another. But this speculation raises more questions. Is it likely that other universes, if they do exist, are the same as ours? And Big Bangs aside, could there be other means by which new realms are born?

Turning the focus to planet Earth, it took eons of time for just the right mix of climate and atmosphere to serve as a supporting backdrop for life as we know it. Science suggests that life began in a primordial “soup” of single-celled microbes. Then, an evolutionary process unfolded. Over millions of years, genetic mutations and “survival of the fittest” have led to the countless varieties of flora and fauna seen today. Searching in the deepest seas and the most remote forests, scientists continue to discover new life forms. Some are flourishing, while others are not. But are the world’s fragile balances maintained entirely by the laws of nature? Or has “intelligent design” played a role in our planet’s evolution?

Those who endorse this view maintain that a “higher power” started, and is perhaps shaping, the growth of life as it appears today. In fact, there are scientists who insist that natural laws solve some, but not all, of the puzzles surrounding carbon-based life. For instance, genetic mutations are typically spawned by a slow, random process. If this is true, have the supporting climate and atmosphere been in place long enough for incremental mutations to sufficiently explain the immense diversity of life seen now? What’s more, mutations occur within existing species. And if that’s the case, can mutations and other natural events account for all of the new species that have come into being?

Ours is a universe of energy. Eternal in the sense that it never disappears, energy simply changes form. Yet in another sense, energy is a prisoner forever held captive by physical laws. But are there formless realms as well? Science and mathematics have neither proved nor disproved the existence of formless realms, where energy, matter, and time are absent. Is it possible there are metaphysical domains that transcend the laws defining our universe? Perhaps even the dimension of space is not found in such realms.

Fueling the human body, energy sustains our heartbeat, our pulse, our breathing, and the electrical impulses found in our brain. And thoughts, too, are energy. Still, it’s unclear whether or not scientists have identified our human essence. Is one’s “life force” wholly defined by vibrating strands of energy? Physicists and mathematicians have struggled in their effort to gather evidence that answers this daunting question. Is spirit part of life’s equation? While there’s little chance of mistaking someone’s body for their clothes, is there a guarantee we won’t mistake someone’s soul for their energy?

Historically, philosophers and theologians have often strayed from science when defining human life. Those who believe in a higher power, for example, usually draw distinctions between energy and spirit. One’s spirit, or soul, is viewed as their eternal life force. And unlike energy, spirit is not trapped in time or governed by universal laws. In addition, philosophers and theologians often apply equal value to the fields of physics and metaphysics, and they may devote similar time to the study of form and formlessness. Can spirit dwell in all realms, those with form and those where form is not? Is spirit able to roam among parallel universes and experience all of their dimensions? Does spirit define human self-awareness? Is it the source of individual or collective consciousness? In a domain absent of space, could one’s soul be both everywhere and nowhere? And finally, if God is indeed found in timeless realms, then could not a Creator have existed “before” the Big Bang that sparked the birth of our universe?

Hundreds of millions of people believe there is a higher power present in our world. Globally, this deity has many names, including God, Krishna, Buddha, Allah, and Christ. But again, science can neither prove nor disprove the existence of a Creator. That’s why human beings wrestle with something called faith. Ultimately, each person decides whether faith leads to folly or to truth. Is belief in God a crutch, or is it a gateway to illumination? For centuries, similar questions have prompted reflection among people determined to seek and find reality. Intellectual curiosity is a compelling motivator. For many, only science and logic can reliably lead to truth. But others choose to follow their hearts. They travel a different road while searching for wisdom and insight. And truth waits patiently, unaffected by the path which reveals it. That’s because absolute truth is constant and forever unchangeable. Or is it?

A Guided Meditation by Chaplain John Love  

The human experience includes both joys and sorrows. Though we celebrate great triumphs, we also endure bitter disappointments. Indeed, pain and suffering — whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual — are ongoing dimensions of the human condition. Most of us are born into this world as students. We grow, we mature, and ever so slowly, we learn. Fortunately, teachers are born into this world as well; teachers who show us how to live and how to love; special men, women, and children who show us how to persevere; spirit-guided teachers who show us how to forgive; and God-chosen leaders who inspire hope. Jesus was a teacher who used both words and deeds to show us how to live. He told his followers there is no reason to worry about worldly things. He assured them, “Your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” Jesus also said, “Seek the kingdom of Heaven, and your earthly needs will be given to you as well.” He reminded believers there is no reason to be fearful of the future and its uncertainties. He comforted his disciples by telling them, “Let not your hearts be troubled. Trust in God and trust also in me.” Then Jesus said,” In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, I would have told you.” Finally, he promised, “I am going there to prepare a place for you.” What might this lesson mean? By saying “let not your hearts be troubled” perhaps Jesus is teaching that when we have faith, there is no cause to worry. That when we choose to trust God – to accept His love into our heart and ask that His will be done – there is nothing to fear.

Christian theologians suggest that “my Father’s house” refers to Heaven. And most likely, Heaven’s “many rooms” means an infinite number of rooms. And in contrast to the ones found in man-made buildings, perhaps each heavenly “room” is infinite in size. In truth, the vastness of God’s creation is beyond our comprehension. An infinite number of rooms implies an unlimited number of afterlife experiences. It suggests heavenly colors and beauty not yet seen by human eyes; and it hints of heavenly praise and music not yet heard by human ears. Having been created in God’s image, we too are creative. In this world, our creative instincts are expressed through music, art, literature, design, and so on. In the afterlife, could we be exponentially more creative than now? And is it possible we will have a hand in shaping many of our heavenly experiences? The afterlife is timeless. And like the vastness of creation, Heaven’s timelessness is beyond human understanding. We are invested in time. Our lives appear to unfold in chronological order and include a past, a present, and a future. But instead of a horizontal timeline, picture a vertical line where time is not; where the past and future may occur simultaneously; where there is only an eternal moment of now. Does this image offer insights into a timeless realm? Either way, it’s clear that a lifespan on earth – even if it lasts one hundred years or longer – is less than an instant when compared to forever.

After telling his followers that God’s house has many rooms, Jesus declared, “If it were not so, I would have told you.” With this statement, Jesus is saying he would never teach something that is not true. Finally, he promised, “I am going there to prepare a place for you.” These words convey a profound message of hope. And later he added, “Your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom.” Perhaps Jesus means Heaven is not earned, but is offered as a gift – a gift of God’s grace. The Bible promises there shall come a day when there is no more death, or mourning, or crying, or pain; and that God Himself shall wipe away your tears. The afterlife, then, is a realm of oneness, wholeness, and perfection. There is an intimate reconnection with all whom you have ever known and loved. There is no sense of separation or lack of any kind. There are joys and possibilities not yet imagined by the human mind. And should you dwell in a heavenly body, it will be perfect and everlasting; for there are no betrayals in Paradise.

God is the Alpha and the Omega, without beginning or end. He understands that everyone makes mistakes. So there is nothing that you can think or say or do that is beyond God’s forgiveness. His love and grace have no boundaries. And you are worthy of God’s love and grace; for if God truly believes His children are unworthy, then why did He send a Savior? Christ’s victory over death is your divine assurance that life is eternal. The Resurrection of Christ transformed the cross – an instrument of torture – into the ultimate symbol of hope. Scripture teaches that God is love and His presence is with you always. You will never be left alone, even for a moment. So, feel God’s peace. Feel the comfort of His angels who watch over you, and bathe in the light of Jesus Christ.

A Guided Meditation by Chaplain John Love

Your journey begins on a path which leads through a tranquil forest. Picture the forest floor blanketed by lush ferns. Their rich green color blends perfectly with the emerald trees shading your path. On the distant horizon, ancient rock formations penetrate the clouds, and you are awed by nature’s beauty. As you walk along the path, there is no sense of time or urgency. You feel a sacred connection with God. Now, your ear detects the comforting sounds of a nearby stream. Going a bit further, you see crystal clear water cascading over polished rocks. To your right, an inquisitive fish explores the boundaries of a secluded pool. As you resume walking, birds glide from tree to tree, and their whistled melodies offer an unexpected serenade. Playful animals are all around: daring squirrels, timid rabbits, darting chipmunks.

Now, the path leads to an opening, to a distinct change in landscape. Magically, you stand at the edge of a vast meadow – a vista graced by an abundance of wildflowers. Vibrant reds, yellows, oranges, and purples stretch as far as you can see. You reach down, pick a blossom, and lift it to your nose. A glorious fragrance greets you – then lingers in the air. You examine the fragile petals one at a time. Each is intricate, yet simple; each petal is an elegant expression, a gift from God. But there are more gifts to discover. Finding a single drop of nectar, you taste it and marvel at the sweetness.

The path ahead is so inviting, you take off your shoes. While walking barefoot, cool grass soothes your feet. You smile as soft moss tickles the tender skin between your toes. The blue sky is dotted with cotton-like clouds. You feel the warmth of a golden sun, and a gentle breeze touches your face. To your left, a deer stands watch over her fawn. Like all young life, this fawn is so innocent, so frail – so dependent on its mother’s vigilance. Yet, its future holds such promise. Now, your gaze is fixed on a butterfly. Its fluttering wings are relentless, tireless. As this curious creature disappears from sight, you sense a genuine kinship; because it, too, follows a whimsical path leading to an unrevealed destination; it, too, must confront uncertainty.

Walking further, you view something ahead – something that seems strangely out of place. Still, you are clearly drawn to it. The attraction cannot be denied. Continuing on, you realize the out-of-place ‘something’ is, in fact, a structure of some kind. And as you get closer, you’re surprised to learn that it’s made of marble and gold, and adorned with precious gems. At last, you recognize what you’ve come upon. It’s an altar. More importantly, you know this sublime altar is a special gift and that its discovery is not an accident. You’ve found a holy place and you sense God’s closeness.

Feeling humbled, you choose to kneel in front of the altar. And listening to your heart, you know exactly what to do. On this altar, you place your pain and suffering. You place your grief and anger on the altar. You lift up to God any guilt or shame. On this altar, you place your fears, your worries, and your anxieties. You place your regrets, mistakes, and disappointments on the altar. You lift up to God any unfulfilled dreams, broken promises, unrealized legacies, or failed relationships. And God loves you so much that He gladly accepts your offering of earthly burdens. He is pleased to relieve you of your fears and worries, your regrets and mistakes. He is eager to help you heal emotionally and spiritually. God wants you to talk to Him and grow closer to Him. God wants you to feel whole.

As you rise from your knees, you feel so much lighter – so renewed and joyous. You feel a profound inner peace; a calmness far greater than you’ve ever felt before. You bathe in the light of your Creator. And now that you know where to find this altar – this sacred place – you can revisit it as often as you wish. You can revisit it anytime you start to feel once again weighed down by earthly burdens. Be assured that God is love; and know that you shall never be left alone or comfortless.

A Guided Meditation by Chaplain John Love

As you cautiously approach the edge of a deep canyon, you might strain your neck and peer downward for a few seconds. Those who stare too long into the canyon’s depths may feel dizzy. Then, their gaze will inevitably focus in a new direction. Otherwise, they risk falling. In a similar way, most people confront thoughts of death for just brief moments at a time. Otherwise, they risk feeling overwhelmed. Yet people who summon the courage to boldly face death’s certainty – those who find the strength to examine and to accept their mortality – sometimes receive an unexpected gift: a renewed joy for living. They choose to drink more fully from the cup of life, for whatever time they have left in this world. Just as fertile soil may yield a bountiful harvest, perhaps the following thoughts will nurture a seed of inner peace . . .

What is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, so that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then shall you begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

Kahlil Gibran

There is one thing certain about the past: It is not here now, so it can no longer harm you. And there is one thing certain about the future: It is not yet here, so it cannot harm you now. We live in a dualistic world – a world in which many things appear to have an opposite: right and wrong, hot and cold, black and white. It’s understandable to instinctively conclude that life and death are opposites. But in truth, death is the opposite of birth. Birth and death are polarities in nature’s realm of cycles. But life has no opposite; life is eternal. Is the earthly body one’s true identity? Or is it the soul, the spirit? Saint Paul wrote, “Fix your eyes not on what is seen, but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is everlasting.” The human experience includes both joys and sorrows. At this moment, focus on the positive. Recount the things in your life – from the past and the present – which you are most grateful for. And finally, identify the things in your life which inspire hope. Praise God from whom all blessings flow . . .

Chaplaincy, like clinical and psychosocial disciplines, is dedicated to providing the best possible care to patients and families. It’s a calling, a mission, and an honor to serve the people who choose hospice organizations for end-of-life support. Yet, a chaplain is simply one member of a team that includes doctors, nurses, aides, social workers, counselors, administrators, managers, and support personnel. Teams usually include diverse personalities, religions, and cultures. Still, we must work cooperatively, collaboratively, and synergistically to provide optimum care for each patient’s body, mind, and spirit.

One of the chaplain’s primary responsibilities is to offer appropriate spiritual support. It’s not our job to proselytize or to promote a personal agenda. Indeed, chaplaincy is an interfaith ministry. Our goal is to join patients wherever they may be on their spiritual path and, for a short while, to share their personal journey in an affirming, non-judgmental way. Spiritual support must always honor the patient’s faith history.

Ideally, all caregivers should remember that our patients and families are immersed in grieving. They grieve the body’s betrayal. They grieve the loss of control and loss of identity. They grieve leaving loved ones behind. They grieve mistakes, regrets, unfulfilled legacies, and unrealized dreams. They grieve broken relationships and life’s evanescence. And like death, grieving is a journey unique to the individual. Moreover, patients are often struggling to redefine life’s meaning, and they may be desperately trying to find purpose in their pain and suffering.

For chaplains, a calm presence is sometimes the greatest gift that can be offered. We recognize the need to stay in the present moment, and we accept the truth that silence is sacred. We strive to offer unconditional acceptance and respect. We extend empathy. And while normalizing fears and anxieties, we validate our patient’s feelings. It’s okay for them to be angry, fearful, or sad; and yes, it’s okay for them to be mad at God.

Chaplains build trust-based relationships. We listen as patients share their life stories. We laugh, cry, and learn. We pray, read Scripture, and serve Sacraments. We offer kindness and compassion. We help patients reconnect with their church families. We participate in memorial services and community outreach, and we provide support to our team members and fellow chaplains. In short, we are conduits of God’s light, love, and peace.

If all of this sounds challenging, you’re right. Still, a chaplain’s job is no harder – or more important – than the work done by other team members. It is hoped that our collective efforts will ease the suffering of those approaching natural death. But to serve effectively, the entire team must be committed to a unified mission. That’s why our work is a calling. I’m reminded of Romans 8:28 which reads, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

John

Angels have fascinated me for as long as I can remember. I admire their beauty, grace, strength, and compassion. And of course, I envy the wings by which angels are swiftly transported to their next destination. Wouldn’t it be liberating to have angel’s wings?

In the Judeo-Christian faith tradition, angels often serve as God’s messengers and as human protectors. Angels may also assist in physical, emotional, and spiritual healing – in promoting God’s will. Some angels serve as attendants or guardians. Nativity scenes reinforce this perspective, as angels are seen watching over the Holy child. In fact, Scripture contains so many references to angels, it’s difficult to imagine that, during biblical times, a single day could go by without encountering one. So therein rests the mystery. Where have all the angels gone? Today, we seldom talk about angels. And have you ever actually seen one?

But just like people who lived long ago, we too can lose touch with God. Like the lamb which strays from its flock, we too can become lost. And in response, our merciful Creator provides angels who care for us. Indeed, we are abundantly blessed by divine guidance. God might send us a message through a thought, an inspiration, a dream, a voice, a vision, an encounter, or a special event. Or perhaps an angel will be summoned. It’s believed that angels gather around us in greater numbers as we face life challenges that are perceived as overwhelming, sad, frightening, or tragic. Could the feeling of God’s presence be explained, in part, by the love of attending angels?

According to Native American wisdom, most people say, “I will believe it when I see it.” But those who are truly wise say, “I will see it when I believe it.” This insight sheds light on the opening question: Where have all the angels gone? In reality, they haven’t gone anywhere. Angels are among us still, just as they were during biblical times. But we must believe it. We must reach out to them, extend our hand, and expect to feel an angel’s gentle touch.

Angel quotations for reflection . . .

When facing arrest, Jesus told his followers not to defend him. He said, “Do you think I cannot call on my Father and He will at once send me more than twelve legions of angels?” The Holy Bible

“No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth. Angels light the way so that all darkness vanishes and you are standing in a light so bright and clear that you can understand all things you see.” A Course in Miracles

And God sent the angel Gabriel to a virgin named Mary. The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” The Holy Bible

“I do not walk alone, for God’s angels hover near and all about. Love surrounds me, and of this  I can be sure: I will never be left comfortless.” A Course in Miracles

Peace,

John